It seems now every time I meet up with a family member or a close friend they are asking questions like when are you having kids? don’t keep us waiting to long now. You better get started soon or it might be to late. You know you’d make a wonderful mother.
The statements seem harmless a curious question of when am I getting grand babies, when do I get to be an aunt? joyful expressions of I can’t wait until our children can spend holidays together But these statements can be extremely hurtful, add extra stress already on a person or even cause them to feel worse about the fact that they haven’t yet conceived and why.
I have only been married a short time actually we just celebrated our first anniversary. We have been together for years and both have spoken about what we would like for our future, unfortunately things don’t always go to plan. God works in mysterious ways, we all know this.
It’s been six years this year that I have been trying to conceive and unfortunately my miracle hasn’t been created just yet and that’s okay. What isn’t okay is constantly being reminding that I’m struggling in that aspect of life. It’s hard to explain to all your friends and family who have children or are currently pregnant (and gosh doesn’t it feel like every body) that it’s not because you don’t want them or from lack of trying but because it just isn’t a physically easy as one may assume.
It frustrating that it’s so hard for myself yet seems so easy for all those around me, now I’d never take away their excitement or kill their joy anyway. I’m happy for all my friends and family who have been blessed. I am a woman just as them no judgment but I question why god blessed some with children and not myself. I see horror story’s of parents who treat their children disgusting, yet it’s easy for them. Oh well life isn’t fair I get this, be patient my time will come.
But if your reading this and have a friend who has been in a long committed relationship with no children, think before you ask these question. You may actually be hurting one you love without actually knowing it.
I believe it’s 1 in 5 are affected by infertility, so a lot more common than one may believe. It’s a struggle that many go through with only a 33% change every month. So please be mindful of your beautiful friends that are yet to become beautiful mothers
As always I appreciate you and your time if you have read this, any view makes my day knowing at least one person is interested in my thoughts my words.
Thank you 🙏🏼
For now Jade x